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About the adoption: no news. . .or, really, news of my POA being a little confused on the process. I have been wondering why it has taken so long to get a court date, so I contacted America World and their contact in Rwanda contacted my POA and (as it turns out), he has been very confused about the process and that is why not a single thing has happened. On one hand, this is VERY frustrating because I really want my boy home. On the other hand, this is adoption and this is how it works. . .frustrations on top of frustrations. . .which will be SO WORTH IT in the end! I would love for a court miracle to work out because I am wanting to take Hays and Maggie with me to Rwanda to get him. One of my staff girls said she would stay with Dax and Gabby. . .what a blessing! Then I could NOT enroll Hays and Maggie in their new school until AFTER Rwanda. I was so excited about that! We'll see.

In the meantime. . .I have been reading this GREAT adoption book called "Our Own: Adopting and Parenting the Older Child." (It is the book that gave me the idea for the size of your sibling ribbons---speaking of which. . .Becca hasn't been able to give Ruk his gifts. . .another long story.) I really wish I would have read this book BEFORE we got Gabby! It says "older children," but I have been SO VERY surprised at how many things apply to Gabby and she was six months old when I got her. CRAZY! So, over the next few days, I'm going to be sharing parts of this book that I have found interesting (and parts that I want to be able to remember). Today's tid-bit will be short and sweet (emphasis mine):

Having reasonable expectations helps. . . . Choose your battles wisely.

Choosing your battles wisely is good advice for all parents, but especially those who adopt older children. There is no way you will be able to change everything you dislike about your son, nor would you want to. Don't we all want other to accept us as we are? You will likely learn as much about yourself in the first few months after adoption as you will about your child. You will find our what is really important to you and what you can let go. Remember that this is a time of immense change for your whole family. GIVE YOURSELF AND YOUR FAMILY A BREAK.

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Kelly said…
I LOVE to excerpt you wrote about from your new book... it is soooo true!!!! I will have to get that book!!!! LOVE you and can't wait to see you soon!!!

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