Skip to main content

Pull Over!!!

Okay, did you know that it is polite to pull over when you are passing a funeral procession on the highway?

I was driving down Highway 550 today and a funeral procession was passing me going the other way and I was one of only two cars that pulled over and I was blown away!  I was so frustrated because people today are so self-focused and always in such a hurry to get to wherever and the fact that they can't even show a little respect for pulling over for two minutes just floored me.

Well, my brother, Brady, called in the middle of my frustration and he reminded me that maybe everyone doesn't know that they are supposed to pull over.  Well, now 60-500 people will (depending on how many readers I have today).

I love pulling over for funerals.  I know, that sounds crazy, but I do.

The first reason is that it gives me a minute to pray for the family and friends left behind by the person who died.  That procession is a line of sad people who have lost someone very dear.  I love to pray for them.  And that usually turns into a time that I thank God for my family and friends.  It is a great time for me in the midst of my crazy drive down to Farmington for an oil change and a run by Sam's and Target.

The second reason that I love it is because of how I know it makes those people feel.  When I went to Nashville for Maria Chapman's funeral it was so heart warming to see people pulled over on the side for our cars.  It felt like they were saying that they cared.  The best part was this one older man who had been mowing his lawn and he stopped and took his hat off as the procession drove by.  That was a sad sad day, but the respect that those people showed was just a small bright light during that dark day.

So, I pull over for funeral processions and I get frustrated when other people don't.  I know, I can only control myself and all of that psycho babble (which happens to be true), but it does frustrate me.  There is my soap box for the day.  I'm sure Brady will be proud of me because he was just telling me how all of my blog posts are so positive.  Well, Brady, here is a gripey one!  (I love you, by the way!)

The next time you pass a funeral procession, just pull over!  Pray for the mourning ones and thank God for your family!  Someone will notice and you may just make one person's day a little less gray!

Comments

Laurie said…
It is a law in Missouri. Besides just being considerate of others.
amen sister...it may be an east west thing...ambulances, too.
notonblogger said…
This is amazing that people do this! We are from Detroit, I don't think I have seen this happen over here. Although, maybe I just wasn't aware of it. That is a very respectful thing! I admire this! Thanks for sharing!
"Meck" said…
JJ - I can't tell you how much I agree with your post. When we had the funeral for our son Maverick, as we were driving to the grave site...every single car pulled over, not one kept driving...every single car. As I was riding in the limo to bury my son I had a moment of hope and thankfulness for the respect and kindness of the people in our community. It truly meant something to me...and I felt their prayers. Kingfisher, OK...no better people in the world. Thanks for posting.

Popular posts from this blog

The Grief of a Stepmom

The grief of a stepmom.  This post has had so many titles:  The Invisible Grief of a Stepmom, The Silent Grief of a Stepmom, The Lonely Grief of a Stepmom. . . the grief of a stepmom is like no other grief because it feels so homeless. My stepson died a few weeks ago.   Marc and I have only been married eight months and Mackay, my stepson, lived in NYC and we rarely got to see him (he didn't get to come to the wedding or Cabo and didn't stay with us when he came to town), so I didn't have much of a relationship with him.  So there is a weird layer of loosing someone I hardly knew and I feel like that is the layer that makes the most sense to everyone.   While the family was mourning, I was the one organizing all of the meals coming in from our wonderful friends and neighbors, I was cleaning up one meal and setting up for the next.  I was keeping the house in order and making sure Marc was able to surround himself with the friends and family he needed to make it through the

Should've Said No. . . ?

Andy proposed during a curtain call of Me and My Girl , a musical in which he played an old man who went most of his life without telling the woman he loved that he loved her... Twenty-three years ago today Andy asked me to marry him. . . .  he was my best friend and I thought he was the love of my life.  Should I have said no? I don't know how many times I have now been asked a version of that question in the past couple of years and I cannot count the number of times I have asked myself that question over the past decade, but it is a dumb question with no great answer. If I would have said no 23 years ago, I would have saved myself from so many tears and so much pain, but I would have missed so much laughter and so many exciting firsts and I would be such a different person. . . . Because of this day, 23 years ago, I am who I am and I have so much to be thankful for. Because of this day, 23 years ago, I have five of the best kids on the planet.  They are t

Mother's Day Thoughts

I've been feeling so many Mother's Day feels this weekend.  For starters, my big kids came home to surprise me and that was the most wonderful thing!  I remember Mother's Day 2017 when I cried because Hays was a Senior in high school and heading to Texas A&M and I thought it would be my last Mother's Day with my five all together. . . . and yesterday proved those tears unnecessary!  And then, as if that wasn't more than I could ever wish for, Marc spoiled me like I have never been spoiled before.  I am consistently blown away and humbled by how much he appreciates me and shows me his appreciation with words, gifts, acts of service and more.  I am so grateful for this husband of mine and the way he loves me and shows our kids what selfless love is supposed to look like! But even before yesterday, I've been thinking a lot about all of the different dimensions of motherhood I now experience and it is shaping me into a new and stronger and more compassionate and