If Home Is Where Your Heart Is. . . .

Well, apparently, we have to "officially" accept our referral. My POA didn't know that. So, we have officially accepted our referral and now we are going to work on getting our Act of Adoption from the Ministry. We are slowing rolling again and prayerfully we can get a court date that Andy can attend! Thanks for the prayers! Keep them coming!

Well, Ryan & Nyanja from America World Adoption are swooping in to save the day (hopefully)! For those of you just thinking about adoption, please consider America World Adoption Agency ( www.awaa.org ). They are so wonderful and they are being so good to me! We were their pilot family for Rwanda and they are coming through in my pinch. Nyanja, their contact in Kigali, is trying to work with Ruk's orphanage to get him a court date so that when Andy heads to Rwanda in a couple of weeks, he can represent our family in court. That means he will meet Ruk first and then I'll probably head back over there to pick him up. This isn't the timing I had hoped for, but at least it is working out. And it is good because Andy can be a big part of the adoption and meet our boy and then I can go get him like I dreamed of doing! (And prayerfully I can figure it out with Hays and Maggie's school that they can come, too!!!) Again, I am trying not to mentally make any plans just in cas...

Well, I think my POA is out. I think he's finished with the process. I think he is too busy with other commitments and I think he is too overwhelmed with what is next. After a good cry under a tree in the woods while it was raining and then a nap in my bathroom closet (so that no children could find me), I'm feeling better. Andy will be in Rwanda in three weeks and maybe he can make something happen for us! I think I'll know tomorrow. I emailed my POA one more time asking for a little more information and once I hear back from him, I think I'll have some further insight. I'm sad. I feel defeated. But I know that somewhere (somehow) there is a bigger plan. I cannot wait to see what it is!!!!!

I'm really enjoying blogging about this book I am reading because it is giving me something to blog about. I'm so anxious about Ruk and the nothingness that is going on with our adoption and I am thankful that I have this to write about. These paragraphs come from chapter 5, "Settling In." Sleep is something we all need and something that most of us can't get enough of during the initial adjustment. Yet, sleeping is one area in which virtually all children experience difficulties, in on way or another. It may be hard for us to believe that our children are not as exhausted as we are. In fact, they probably are, but that doesn't mean sleep will come easily to them. Falling asleep is one of the most difficult things for newly adopted kids to do for many reasons. Foremost is probably the fact that when they fall asleep they can no longer be vigilant about their safety and what's going on in the house. 'Vigilant' describes almost every newly adopted ch...

More from the book I am reading "Our Own: Adopting and Parenting the Older Child." I don't know if I agree 100% with all of this excerpt, but it is just comforting for me for some reason. Probably feeling the freedom to possibly not being overwhelmed by love at the beginning. I think I will be, but I often fear I won't be. . . . For some parents, the initial adjustment period does not result in a loving attachment. Experienced parents say that you must distinguish loving from liking and commitment. Most parents will tell you that love takes time. You may be committed to your child for months or even years before you truly love him. If your child hesitates to attach to you, you may find yourself holding back, too. But even if everything is progressing normally, love takes time, and a year or more is not that unusual. Many experienced parents point our that you don't have to love a child to parent him. Parenting is about commitment and support. If you can concentr...

About the adoption: no news. . .or, really, news of my POA being a little confused on the process. I have been wondering why it has taken so long to get a court date, so I contacted America World and their contact in Rwanda contacted my POA and (as it turns out), he has been very confused about the process and that is why not a single thing has happened. On one hand, this is VERY frustrating because I really want my boy home. On the other hand, this is adoption and this is how it works. . .frustrations on top of frustrations. . .which will be SO WORTH IT in the end! I would love for a court miracle to work out because I am wanting to take Hays and Maggie with me to Rwanda to get him. One of my staff girls said she would stay with Dax and Gabby. . .what a blessing! Then I could NOT enroll Hays and Maggie in their new school until AFTER Rwanda. I was so excited about that! We'll see. In the meantime. . .I have been reading this GREAT adoption book called "Our Own: Adop...

Pastor John did a super sermon yesterday and I wish I could have heard it in person! Please take time to listen to it at some point. He is going through James now (he picks a book and goes through it verse by verse and it takes about four years with every book--amazing). He hit on just the first part of James 1:27 today and it was super. Everyone should hear it. . .adoptive parents and everyone! Click on the link below to listen!!! James River Assembly • Messages Shared via AddThis