After a final day of Cross Cultural Skills & Understanding and some good Braner naps, we headed to the Commissioning Ceremony (aka Fake Graduation, aka Fraduation). It was a great night. We took tons of pictures, laughed a lot, hugged a lot, cried some, were proud of ourselves and of one another and were a little sad that many of those dear friends in that room we may not see after next week. What a blessing this Master's degree has been for me already just in terms of friendships.
The speech went surprisingly well. Sylvia, the representative from the IDEV (International Development) cohort went first and it was perfect. She is so sweet and wise and sincere. It was great. Then Lauren introduced me and said the most special things about me to the room. The tears began then, but I think that I did a fairly decent job not blubbering my way through my speech about our wonderful LORG (Organizational Leadership) family. I'm proud of the way I pulled it off. (I'll be attaching it below mostly for my benefit several years in the future.)
My speech:
The speech went surprisingly well. Sylvia, the representative from the IDEV (International Development) cohort went first and it was perfect. She is so sweet and wise and sincere. It was great. Then Lauren introduced me and said the most special things about me to the room. The tears began then, but I think that I did a fairly decent job not blubbering my way through my speech about our wonderful LORG (Organizational Leadership) family. I'm proud of the way I pulled it off. (I'll be attaching it below mostly for my benefit several years in the future.)
| Hays said this was the only picture he took of me giving my speech where I wasn't reading directly off the page or crying. Clearly my career as a public speaker should end with last night! |
Like Sylvia and the IDEV cohort, I,
too, would like to thank all of you who have made this journey possible. We especially want to highlight Beth
who has been our advocate, our teacher, our mentor and our friend. We were fortunate to spend most of our first
year following the path you, Beth, carved for us and led us down as we began
our adventure towards becoming servant leaders. And thank you Hays, Maggie, Tiki, Dax & Gabby for loving
me, supporting me and for making me a better me.
Last year as I was sitting listening
to the speeches by Beau and Natalie, my most lingering thought was how grateful
I was that I wouldn’t be the one chosen by my cohort to be giving the speech
this year. And here I am. God has a funny way of surprising me;
tossing me far out of my comfort zone and making me better for it in the
end. Out of my entire cohort, why
am I the one up here? I don’t have
an answer for that. If I were
Chantal standing here, I’d be saying something well thought through. If I were Sap, I’d be speaking words of
wisdom. If I were Debbi, I’d be
speaking out of the depths of my passions. If I were Lauren I would be speaking from my soul with words
that first came out of Christ’s mouth.
I am up here with knocking knees and hives creeping out of the neck of
my fancy gown praying that my nerves will not turn into tears.
My cohort, like the IDEVers, is a unique
and peculiar group. We began as a
cohort of seven representing six countries, three continents, ten languages and
seven distinct passions all based on our heart for the Lord and for others
because of what He did for us on the cross. Jesus said that people will know that we are His followers
because we love and that is true of each one of us. Mark and Gady who aren’t here with us tonight brought
laughter, compassion and experience that we miss without them in our
cohort. But the five of us who
remain have become a dear family and for that I am grateful.
Michelle Obama said, when talking about mingling
with a diverse group “. . . . Maybe
you’ll find some common ground, maybe you won’t. But if you honestly engage
with an open mind and an open heart, I guarantee you’ll learn something. And
goodness knows we need more of that, because we know what happens when we only
talk to people who think like we do — we just get more stuck in our ways, more
divided, and it gets harder to come together for a common purpose.”
I think she may have been talking
about the LORG class of 2015. We
don’t agree all of the time. We
challenge and sharpen one another as we push the boundaries of our
convictions. But we have pulled
one another through a year which brought every single one of us into the valley
and out again as God stretched us beyond what we believed were our limits—those
limits in our own personal and professional lives that had nothing to do with
grad school and studying and papers and educational journals.
Sap, the only male left in our
group who is so consistent and so steady and so joyful was pushed and pulled multiple
ways throughout the year. We
watched as Debbi’s heart broke and encouraged her as God began to put each
piece of that broken heart back together.
We witnessed Chantal blossom into a courageous and strong woman as she
was put into a leadership position she well deserved. Lauren’s life spanned the continents this year as her health
waivered, her family changed dynamics and she made a big life decision to leave
Kenya. My year was marked with
loss and struggle and hurt and my cohort was there throughout it all. We may not have known all of the
details of each specific struggle or victory, but we were there and we became a
family this year—a family who was put together without choice but who have
become unlikely and forever friends nevertheless.
John Quincy Adams said, “If your actions inspire others to
dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” I am in a group of leaders because each
one of them, in his or her own way, has inspired me to do all of the
above. My dreams are bigger
because of Debbi and her fiery passion for life. I want to learn more because of Lauren and her deep
knowledge of who God is. I want to
do more because of Sap and his hands on dedication to his job. And I want to become more because of
Chantal and the way she has overcome so much in her life and in her culture to
get to where she is.
I hate to be
the person who laces her speech with the words of other people, but so many
people have said it so much better than I ever could. Julie Andrews said, “Use your knowledge and your heart to stand up for those
who can’t stand. Speak for those who can’t speak. Be a beacon of light, for
those whose lives have become dark. . . . . Be a part of all that is good and
decent. Be an ambassador for the kind of world you want to live
in.”
Everyone in my cohort and in the
IDEV cohort is doing this. I have
felt very inadequate over the past year because of the amazing work that each
of these people you see in their caps and gowns tonight are doing. I was in awe the entire residency in
Uganda. I couldn’t believe that I
even deserved to be sitting in the same room as all of them. But now they are my friends, they are
my family and they have helped me to see that I, too, am a part of something
good and decent and I am an ambassador for the kind of world that I want to
live in and the kind of world I want my children to grow up in. Most graduation speeches are challenges
to go out and make the world a better place, but that is what every one of
these year two students are already doing—that is what every one of us in this
room are doing. I have been awed,
inspired and humbled by each one of you over these past 54 weeks: Lauren, Chantal, Debbi, Sap, Sylvia, Malason,
Jeremy, Emily, Emily, Eric & Shelley Thank you for silently pushing me
towards greatness because of the examples you are all setting by the selfless
lives you each are leading.
One final quote because I believe
that this sums up what we are all doing here in Rwanda with Eastern
University. It is both what we are
already doing and a great reminder for us when the days get long and the
opposing voices get loud. Teddy
Roosevelt said,
"It is not the critic who
counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the
doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is
actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who
strives valiantly; who errs, and comes short again and again, because there is
no effort without error and shortcoming; but (instead) who does actually strive
to do the deeds; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who
spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who
at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his
place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory
nor defeat."
Thank you all and may these next nine
months find you in the Lords hand as we go our separate ways, dream our
separate dreams, enjoy our wild successes, live, laugh, stumble, fall, and get
up again so that we can cross the finish line together when we actually finish
this race and graduate in May. Let
us battle mediocrity every single day and dare to be excellent.



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